tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post1747574524125459017..comments2023-05-27T01:07:57.297-07:00Comments on Tiff's Life Now: Transitioning out of Singleness (Part 2a): Words that hurt the Singleton's heart.Tiffani Phttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08074093500122376002noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-25575606793717783932011-10-09T21:45:30.431-07:002011-10-09T21:45:30.431-07:00There are a lot of similarities in this and gettin...There are a lot of similarities in this and getting pregnant - my heart kept taking me back with each "reason". Things are not the same for anyone, people don't realize that what they mean as kindness can cut you to the core. Thanks for being so open and honest with where you were and where you are going. Admire you for that.<br /><br />JenJenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12300018261616157704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-49462924455187304872011-09-27T18:33:15.058-07:002011-09-27T18:33:15.058-07:00Love your blog, Tiffani. Okay, here is my thing. E...Love your blog, Tiffani. Okay, here is my thing. Even at 43 and as a never married Christian woman, people (typically married women) call me Miss Wendy. I am in the habit of correcting people that call me that, but I am here to say that the Single Never Married (SNM) do not need to be reminded that they are unmarried every time their name is called out! Besides it is hurtful to the SNM, if feels patronizing to be addressed that way - especially when it is a married person saying it. Just Wendy or if you must, Miss Nungesser, please. Thank you. ;)Wendy's Bike Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10455873204798617324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-37120999475958281582011-08-26T18:29:44.071-07:002011-08-26T18:29:44.071-07:00maybe I should've read BOTH posts before comme...maybe I should've read BOTH posts before commenting. It does attest to the truth in the book, though.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285343342363144215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-28001752814138771482011-08-26T18:26:06.369-07:002011-08-26T18:26:06.369-07:00You have excellent points. I had a lot of times w...You have excellent points. I had a lot of times where I felt like something was broken in me because I wasn't dating from high school through college. Most people's so-called advice never helped. My senior year I read a book called "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" and I seriously think it changed the way I viewed dating. I actively went out and talked to guys and just had [clean :)] fun. After a few years I did meet my husband- on okcupid -and I think that's okay.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285343342363144215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-12424664986567053012011-08-26T16:26:17.210-07:002011-08-26T16:26:17.210-07:00Tiff, I just love this!! I get so frustrated with ...Tiff, I just love this!! I get so frustrated with some of the things people say. I know they are trying to be encouraging, but it can wound more deeply then people know. I also feel like it comes across like we know less about life than those who have figured it out and gotten settled down. I know that's not the heart, but it is how it feels sometimes!Sarah Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01481640382537417130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-52130693855211228872011-08-26T15:37:40.506-07:002011-08-26T15:37:40.506-07:00Oh, Tiff. There are SO many reasons that people gi...Oh, Tiff. There are SO many reasons that people give me on a near-daily basis as to finding a significant other or while I'm still single. I find it irritating that most (if not all) of these people are IN relationships, MARRIED, or have HAD relationships. None of which I can claim, which makes it hard for folks my age to relate to my situation. <br /><br />I think the #1 reason I'm given that I HATE! is that "it will happen when you're least expecting it." Pardon my language, but I call BULLSHIT! I expect it, I want it, and I want to slap people (even my best friends, for crying out loud) who say that to me. <br /><br />Coming in at a close #2 would be that "you just haven't been in the dating world all that long - you have to go on a lot of bad dates to find the good ones." Again, I call BS! Just because I'm 28 and have only been dating for two years DOESN'T mean I should have to wait another 10 years before I find someone decent. We're grownups, for crying out loud! I don't think it's unreasonable for me to expect that if I go on a date with someone, they behave like an adult and treat me (and themselves) with some respect and dignity! It's so frustrating to hear these things over and over and over again. <br /><br />*end rant* So there's my contribution to this post. And I couldn't be more THRILLED that you found Curby and are looking so happy these days. It does my heart good in so many ways. <br /><br />Love,<br />Your Perpetually Singleton Friend LindsayThe Linzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02997014707592441516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4815312550610013984.post-75468850572666671912011-08-25T20:40:31.314-07:002011-08-25T20:40:31.314-07:00Tiff, I LOVE this post....I know there are a few m...Tiff, I LOVE this post....I know there are a few more out there, because I feel like I've heard them all...I think it's any statement that leads to an "If....then..." conclusion, when the reality, as you so clearly put it, is that God works differently in all of our lives and there is no blanket or cookie-cutter method to getting married!! If I think of any other cliche phrases I've heard, I'll be sure to chime in again!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02785435035760924844noreply@blogger.com